Change out of your wedding clothes, into something comfortable, put the do not disturb notice on your door, make sure its locked, order room service and just relax and talk to each other about your wedding day. Share with each other the high points of the wedding, and what you remember most. Present a small wedding night gift to each other. Arrange a wake-up call if you need to catch a flight.

Once you've relaxed in each others company, you may like to set the scene to become more intimate and cosy. Start with a bath or Jacuzzi in the honeymoon suite as this will help relax the two of you. Follow the bath with some mood-boosting sensual massage that will enable you to connect with each other physically and relax each other.

Talk, Talk, Talk & Talk!
Talk, talk, talk. Lingerie, candles and music can help you relax, but here is nothing as stimulating as talking to each other. Even kissing comes next to talking it out, especially for new couples. People who straight get into bed, responding to the heat of the moment can seldom strike the intimacy that emerges after you've spoken and confided into each other about your desires (and even your anxieties).

Awkwardness is the biggest wedge that drives a couple apart when it comes to sexual intimacy If you both have not sat down to discuss sex and intimacy before your wedding night, now is the time to do so. No one can teach you how to have sex or be intimate with each other, its as individual as your fingerprints. A chat about it will take away a lot of anxiety that you feel.

Discuss your preferences and desires with each other. The very fact that you're sensitive to each others sexual dreams and fantasies will draw you closer to each other. And if you can talk to each other about the "how" and the "where", you can look forward to a lot of sexual thrill together.

Many men who are more experienced than their brides complain that a "suhaag raat" is ruined because the bride is too shy, too anxious or too self-conscious to make love. As her husband its your job to be understanding and considerate. Look at it this way, it is not the easiest thing in the world to shed clothes and make passionate love with a man, who may well be a bit of a stranger. She is only getting to know you. Don't take her multiple apprehensions for the first time as rejection. It is not about you, it is about her. And you should be okay with that and able to talk to her about it and make her feel relaxed and comfortable.

Similarly for the woman, If you want a man to do something, or to stop, tell him. Don't think that the expression on your face is going to do the talking for you. If you don't learn to speak for yourself in bed, your guy will think all is fine. It may not be. Educate him without hurting his ego. Intimacy and sex is about mutual satisfaction and enjoyment, the more you communicate with each other the closer you'll feel and will enjoy yourselves a whole lot more.

It's Not All About Sex
Several newly-weds admit that they do not actually have sex on their wedding night. This may not be a bad thing after all. Picture yourself having gone through months of planning and preparation for this biggest day in your life. The various customs and reception, if all done on the same day, can be especially overwhelming. Some couples are simply too tired after the whole affair that they just want to relax and be intimate with each other.

You can enjoy other types of intimacy, such as talking, touching, hugging and kissing, massages and caressing. Remember that sexual desire can be expressed in different ways not just by the convention.

For women especially, lovemaking is not just sex. Hugs, kisses or just cuddling up together can make for a great substitute if you're not feeling up to it. So whether you make love on the first night or not, be sure that you hold each other close and let your emotions seep into each other. Try it, there are few things like it.

Look in each others eyes and say "I love you": The best time to confess about your love to your partner is when you are intimate with each other or during sex. If you can talk at this time, you can talk anytime! Eye contact intensifies intimacy as does telling each other that you care for each other.

There's No Right Or Wrong Way
Sex is really not meant to be something stressful. While there have been many books which attempt to recommend various ways of doing it, what's most important is the level of comfort between a couple. Don't worry about doing it the right way. For a start, just let things come naturally and enjoy each other's intimacy for the night. If things go further, great!

Don't worry if things don't turn out perfect the first time - you will have many more nights to practice. The first time is always awkward to many couples, since this is a big step to removing any barriers between you two. Give yourselves more time to understand what each other needs and how you can do it better next time. As the saying goes, "Practice makes Perfect".