Like many other brides and grooms to be, you may be wondering how to approach your wedding night and a flood of questions may be entering your mind. Do all couples have sex on their wedding night? How do first-timers deal with the excitement, anxiety, or even fright involved with "having to do it" on the night itself. Will you feel embarrassed after "the act"? These are all fairly common questions and if you are thinking about them, rest assured, you are not alone.

How you and your fiancé approach your wedding night will of course depend upon whether you have been sexually active with each other before marriage. Even if you have, the chances are that the stress and exhaustion of your wedding day may not guarantee the best sex of your marriage and you will need to take this into account when planning your "suhaag raat".

On the other hand, if you and your partner are sexual strangers to each other or one or both of you are virgins (not an uncommon situation!) you may be feeling nervous, anxious, or even frightened, and perhaps understandably so. But don't be; following the advice in this article along with some common sense and mutual understanding will guarantee you a wedding night to remember regardless of whether or not you end up having sex!

Don't Have Unrealistic Expectations
As you start your new lives together, you wouldn't be alone in hoping that your wedding night will be your most romantic moment to date. The fact is, a perfect wedding night belongs on the cinema screen. More often than not, the bride and groom are exhausted and stressed from pre-wedding build-up and late nights. This will not lead to the best frame of mind for mutually satisfying lovemaking.

Whatever your personal experience, your strategy should be not to make a big deal about your wedding night. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourselves which will make you anxious and uncomfortable and detract from your enjoyment of your first night together; there are no do's and don'ts about what should happen. Just relax and take the time to communicate together and be intimate with each other rather than having any expectations of what should happen.

If you make each other comfortable and are intimate with each other on the first night itself, good sex is sure to follow either on your suhaag raat or in the days to come. Moreover if you do end up having sex and if the first night wasn't mind-blowing, you have the rest of your life to perfect the technique. Right now just concentrate on enjoying being with each other. If sex follows great, if not you've got the whole of your lives together!

Plan & Be Prepared
Many couples spend months planning the minutest details of their wedding but give very little thought to their wedding night. Some of the meticulous attention that you dedicate to planning your wedding, should also be applied to preparing for your wedding night. The more prepared you are the less awkward and more enjoyable it will be.

Ideally you should both take some time out to discuss your expectations of your wedding night and what you would enjoy doing together. Get to know and respect each other's desires, fantasies and boundaries. (You could even read over this article together as a basis for further discussion). Having brought things out in the open before the wedding night and let down a few barriers, you will both find yourselves more relaxed when you retire to the honeymoon suite.

You should both make an effort to visit the gym, trim down any excess flab and tone up in the run up to your wedding. If you look good, not only will your partner respond favourably, you'll feel much more confident.

On a similar note regardless of what you normally sleep in, your wedding night is not the time to exhibit your best set of PJ's or that faded shalwar kameez, which is just so comfortable! Go out and buy yourself something special, which will make you look and feel like a million dollars. This is a special night, make an effort for each other. We're not talking anything, which is out of character for you, just whatever you're comfortable in but makes you look sexy - a pair of designer boxers or an attractive item of lingerie.

Before the wedding preparations reach dizzying heights, sit down and write what you want to pack in your luggage for the night itself.

Here's what you may like to include.
1  Attractive nightwear and underwear.
2  CDs of mood music and/or music for lovers that will relax you
3  Scented candies to create a romantic ambience
4  Bubble bath. Although the hotel will probably be more than happy to provide this.
5  Sensual scents and massage oils such as lemon grass or ginger. (Make sure that the scents     appeal to both of you.)
6  Birth control (unless you are intending to start a family straight away)